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18 July 2014 @ 12:51 pm
Wandering in the forest of grief  

Mirrored from Marsha Sisolak.

One of the most difficult things to do as a child when you’ve lost a parent is to sift through their possessions and decide what parts you’re going to keep and what you’re going to give away or throw out.

Now when you’re suddenly orphaned at age 60+?

It’s not just the things that represent their life–it’s the house, too. So not only have you lost that last parent, you’ve lost the home that was them, and that center of celebrations and reunions.

When a door closes, a window may very well open. In my case (lots of siblings, for sure, and we’ve all drawn closer) it’s a huge window.

But the dimensions of that window will never match the size of Mom’s forever-closed-to-me door.

docdad2docdad2 on July 18th, 2014 08:45 pm (UTC)
I am saddened by your loss.
I could say more but not here.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on July 18th, 2014 11:05 pm (UTC)
Oh, boy, I am so sorry about the pain.
Queen of the Skiesqueenoftheskies on July 18th, 2014 11:22 pm (UTC)
Kathryn  - Kat - Allenkatallen on July 19th, 2014 03:01 am (UTC)
After the near miss with my mother, I tried to think calmly about how that loss would feel, what I would do, so I'd perhaps feel less panicked and helpless... when... But I failed entirely.

I can't imagine how you're feeling so it's impossible for me to come up with words that have any chance of helping you (or me) feel better about your loss. But if you should see or hear some -- that's what I wanted to say here.

Friggfrigg on July 19th, 2014 01:00 pm (UTC)

I haven't lost a parent, but with my godparents passing, it was like the end of en era. Nothing has been quite the same ever since. And like you say, it's not just the person himself or herself. It's the discontinuations of traditions as they used to be, even just the smell and feel of a place.
Cath Emerycathemery on July 22nd, 2014 10:59 pm (UTC)